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Pressing “Pause” For a More Thoughtful, Deliberate, Honest Life

Nov 09, 2023

Life is messy and beautiful. Sometimes we fluctuate between these two conditions faster than we would like. In between the moments are opportunities to pause. To feel inside our bodies, taking the cues of what is happening, and paying attention.

It is inside the pause where the magic happens: We can choose a different response when we are upset. Soak in a moment when we are hurrying through joy. Improve a relationship. Stare at nature. Go for a walk. Listen to that song one more time. Sit with our grief. Explore a career change. Understand ourselves more deeply.

When we are moving quickly, we can miss making a deliberate choice because our habitual reactions overtake our ability to choose a more careful response. It takes a surprising amount of self-awareness to notice an automatic pattern in relationships and make some space before reacting and choose a different response. I can help you do this.

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