Content vs. Process: What Your Conflict Is Really AboutMost couples, and honestly most people, believe that if they could just solve the issue, the conflict would finally calm down. The dishes. The tone....Continue Reading
How to Trust Yourself When You Don’t Know What to DoThere is a question, or different versions of the same question, that I get asked more often than people might imagine: "Do you ever just...Continue Reading
How Can I Feel Less Lonely with the Person I Love?There is a particular kind of loneliness that shows up in many of my therapy sessions. It is the ache of sitting beside your partner...Continue Reading
What Would Our Relationship Feel Like If We Both Assumed the Best?What would shift if both people in a relationship made it a habit to assume the best of one another? Take a second and imagine...Continue Reading
You’re Not Listening vs. You’re Not Hearing MeIn a recent session, a couple sat across from me, caught in that familiar loop so many of us know too well. He was frustrated,...Continue Reading
The Trouble with UrgencyA client once shared that after a heated exchange with her sister, she fired off a long text late at night. At the time, it...Continue Reading
What is "Meeting People Where They Are"?In my practice, I talk often about the importance of meeting people where they are. Whether it is a parent with a child, a partner...Continue Reading
What Is a High-Agency Mindset?A high-agency mindset is the belief that, no matter what life throws at you, there is always something you can do. It’s not about pretending...Continue Reading
Please Stop Text FightingIf you are in a relationship, chances are you’ve had at least one heated exchange over text. It usually starts small, maybe a disagreement or...Continue Reading
