What If the Thing You Keep Asking For Never Comes?There are things we want from the people we love that may never come in quite the way we hoped. Maybe you wish your partner...Continue Reading
Healing When You Still Don’t Understand What HappenedThere is a particular kind of agony in having a relationship end without understanding why. You replay the last conversation, go back through old text...Continue Reading
Can You Love a Person and Not Accept Their Behavior?Sometimes staying connected to someone we love requires us to hold two very different truths about them. We can know that a parent loves us...Continue Reading
When You and Your Partner See Family DifferentlyWhen two people build a life together, they aren't really starting with a blank slate. Each person arrives with a whole family culture behind them....Continue Reading
If I Have to Ask for It, Does It Still Count?Imagine you have told your partner more than once that it means a lot to you when they initiate plans for the two of you....Continue Reading
The Hardest Part of a Conversation Isn't TalkingA comment I hear fairly often from couples, especially early in therapy, is, "I don't want to come here just to fight." Sometimes only one...Continue Reading
Who Gets the Best Version of You?A wife looks at her husband and says, "I watched you with your friends this weekend. You were funny, relaxed, and so engaged. I realized...Continue Reading
Could Your Pace Be the Problem?Lately, I've been thinking about is how much the pace of our lives influences the quality of our relationships. Most people don't come to therapy...Continue Reading
Why I Tell My Clients I'm a Recovered YellerI occasionally share with clients is something that usually surprises them. I tell them I'm what I call a recovered yeller. I don't share that...Continue Reading
