When Loving Someone Requires You to Look Past Too MuchSometimes staying connected to someone we love requires us to hold two very different truths about them. We can know that a parent loves us...Continue Reading
When You Love Your Partner but Struggle With Their FamilyWhen two people build a life together, they aren't really starting with a blank slate. Each person arrives with a whole family culture behind them....Continue Reading
If I Have to Ask for It, Does It Still Count?Imagine you have told your partner more than once that it means a lot to you when they initiate plans for the two of you....Continue Reading
The Hardest Part of a Conversation Isn't TalkingA comment I hear fairly often from couples, especially early in therapy, is, "I don't want to come here just to fight." Sometimes only one...Continue Reading
Who Gets the Best Version of You?A wife looks at her husband and says, "I watched you with your friends this weekend. You were funny, relaxed, and so engaged. I realized...Continue Reading
Could Your Pace Be the Problem?Lately, I've been thinking about is how much the pace of our lives influences the quality of our relationships. Most people don't come to therapy...Continue Reading
Why I Tell My Clients I'm a Recovered YellerI occasionally share with clients is something that usually surprises them. I tell them I'm what I call a recovered yeller. I don't share that...Continue Reading
Why Saying It Out Loud Changes SomethingSomething that continues to amaze me about psychology is how often something that feels simple turns out to be incredibly powerful. Research has consistently shown...Continue Reading
Make the Good Times Good and the Bad Times SafeOne of the things I have learned from working with couples is that the healthiest relationships are not the ones with the least conflict. They...Continue Reading
