It’s Easier to Act Your Way Into New Thinking Than Think Your Way Into New Acting

As you may know by now, I love a good quote. Like this one, “It’s easier to act your way into new ways of thinking...

The Hidden Space Where Conflict Lives

There is a concept I talk about often with clients that tends to resonate quickly once people can visualize it. I usually draw two horizontal...

Are We Incompatible or Overwhelmed?

I recently came across a line that stayed with me: “Modern couples struggle more with capacity than compatibility.” The more I thought about it, the...

Why So Many Couples Think Something Is Wrong When Their Relationship Changes

Lately, I find myself normalizing often with couples that relationships are not static. They change over time. The feelings shift. The dynamics evolve. The experience...

Zoom Lens vs. Wide Lens: A Shift That Changes Everything

Why perspective might be the most important shift you can make There is something I say often to clients, especially when they feel overwhelmed or...

When You’re Arguing But Actually Agreeing

There is a phrase I use in sessions that often gets a pause and a head nod from both partners. I call it violent agreement....

Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone Else’s Emotions?

I want to tell you about a pattern I witness often in the therapy room that can be hard to recognize in yourself because, on...

Why the Same Patterns Keep Showing Up in Your Relationship

There is something I find myself explaining often in sessions, and I want to put it into words in a way that feels simple and...

It Feels Like They’re "Making" You Feel This Way But There’s More to It

I recently came across a line that stayed with me: “When people can’t regulate their emotions, they try to control other people. Learning how to...

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