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Why So Many Couples Think Something Is Wrong When Their Relationship Changes

Lately, I find myself normalizing often with couples that relationships are not static. They change over time. The feelings shift. The dynamics evolve. The experience...

Zoom Lens vs. Wide Lens: A Shift That Changes Everything

Why perspective might be the most important shift you can make There is something I say often to clients, especially when they feel overwhelmed or...

When You’re Arguing But Actually Agreeing

There is a phrase I use in sessions that often gets a pause and a head nod from both partners. I call it violent agreement....

Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone Else’s Emotions?

I want to tell you about a pattern I witness often in the therapy room that can be hard to recognize in yourself because, on...

Why the Same Patterns Keep Showing Up in Your Relationship

There is something I find myself explaining often in sessions, and I want to put it into words in a way that feels simple and...

It Feels Like They’re "Making" You Feel This Way But There’s More to It

I recently came across a line that stayed with me: “When people can’t regulate their emotions, they try to control other people. Learning how to...

The Shift That Helps You Feel More Understood

Do you like being sold something hard by someone? The kind of interaction where you can feel the other person trying to convince you. Their...

Who’s Running the Meeting in Your Mind?

In therapy, people often describe feeling pulled in different directions. Part of them wants to speak up.Part of them wants to stay quiet.Part of them...

The Unexpected Wisdom in a Funny T-Shirt

A friend recently sent me a picture of her daughter wearing a T-shirt that made me laugh out loud. It said: “Hang in there. It...

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