Setting a Boundary is Not the Same as Being Avoidant

In the quiet moments of reflection or in the heat of a challenging interaction, many of us ask ourselves an important question. Am I setting...

The Power of Being Transparent When You’re Trying to Change

One of the most powerful ways we can foster meaningful change in our relationships, outside of individual or couples therapy, is by making our efforts...

Why the Right Partner Will Challenge You

We all want to be loved. To feel safe, seen, and cherished. So it’s understandable that when we imagine our future partner, we think about...

The Bullseye of Change: Understanding and Using Your Locus of Control

A powerful shift I get to witness in therapy, whether someone is working on their relationship, their career, or their own inner world, happens when...

"Learning to Be With Myself": A Different Way to Heal After a Breakup

After a breakup or divorce, there is often a familiar chorus of advice:“You need to learn to be alone.” It sounds like wisdom. And sometimes,...

"Just Tell Me the Truth": Why That’s Harder Than It Sounds in a Relationship

“Just tell me the truth.” It’s a common plea in relationships. A partner longs for honesty, for openness, for clarity. And yet, in the very...

When the Pain of Staying the Same Becomes Greater Than the Pain of Changing

Change is hard. Even when we know something isn’t working, when a relationship feels unfulfilling, when we’re stuck in self-defeating patterns, when we’ve outgrown a...

The Initiator-Inquirer Couples Communication Process: A Primer

When couples come to therapy, one of the biggest challenges they face is how to talk about issues without falling into the same exhausting patterns...

The Price We Pay for Love: Personal Freedom and the Bittersweet Trade of Intimacy

Intimacy is one of the deepest human longings—we crave closeness, connection, and the feeling of being truly seen. And yet, the very thing that makes...

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