Are You Moving Forward, or Moving Away From Yourself?
In my work, I have become increasingly curious about the difference between movement and avoidance. On the surface, they can look remarkably similar. Both involve...
The More You Communicate, the Less You Will Have To
A colleague of mine, couples counselor Colette Fehr, recently said something during a keynote that immediately stayed with me: “The more you communicate, the less...
Many Couples Unconsciously Hire the Therapist to Regulate the Room
In my experience, I believe many couples unconsciously hire the therapist to regulate the room instead of learning to regulate themselves. I do not mean...
I recently came across a line that stayed with me: “Modern couples struggle more with capacity than compatibility.” The more I thought about it, the...
Why So Many Couples Think Something Is Wrong When Their Relationship Changes
Lately, I find myself normalizing often with couples that relationships are not static. They change over time. The feelings shift. The dynamics evolve. The experience...
