Something that continues to amaze me about psychology is how often something that feels simple turns out to be incredibly powerful. Research has consistently shown...
What's the Story You Default To When You're Disappointed?
Disappointment has a way of feeling much bigger than the event that caused it. A friend doesn't call back. Your partner forgets something important. A...
Are You Moving Forward, or Moving Away From Yourself?
In my work, I have become increasingly curious about the difference between movement and avoidance. On the surface, they can look remarkably similar. Both involve...
The More You Communicate, the Less You Will Have To
A colleague of mine, couples counselor Colette Fehr, recently said something during a keynote that immediately stayed with me: “The more you communicate, the less...
Many Couples Unconsciously Hire the Therapist to Regulate the Room
In my experience, I believe many couples unconsciously hire the therapist to regulate the room instead of learning to regulate themselves. I do not mean...
I recently came across a line that stayed with me: “Modern couples struggle more with capacity than compatibility.” The more I thought about it, the...
